To be a better tutor

It is hard to designate "one thing" that would automatically make me a better tutor. I would need to know my own capabilities in grammar. I would need to know how to coerce a student into formulating their own ideas for bettering their paper. I would need to know the endless possibilities that writing permits, and the notion that no matter how many rules one writes there are others that undermine them. I would need to know the student, to have an idea of their own capabilities, their fears, and their strengths. But if I had to pick one thing, one thing that would make me a better tutor, it would be that I would have to know my own writing. If I can understand my own writing, know how it is produced, know its faults, know where it shines, then I can understand the writing of others.